Worrying is like paying on a debt that may never come due. ~ Will Rogers
Do you worry about other people’s issues? Do you feel guilty if you don’t worry about other people’s issues? Is it that you need to worry about someone else’s issues? It’s time for people to worry about their own issues. It’s time to make the shift, giving them responsibility for their own issues.
I’m talking about pure, unadulterated WORRY! This is not about simply having concern for others in need and such!
Anytime something would go wrong with a loved one or a close friend I used to worry! Each and every day that their situation was a bad one, it stayed with me day and night. Would things turn out OK with them, what will their future look like, how will this affect them… and anything else I could think to worry about! I realize now that it wasn’t worth it. People are generally intelligent and can handle their own issues without me worrying along with them! Most people carry their own burdens and handle their own issues quite nicely—I might add, so much better than I do! My stress level, on the other hand, was huge whenever things would go wrong. I have not one thing to show for it except the pain I was in while listening, on one level or another, during this time. My own fault. Their lives turned out great and mine, on the other hand… well, I was tired! Chuckle!
A wise person once told me, “Two people shouldn’t worry about the same thing” and the reason given was because there was, “No sense in both of us worrying about the same thing!” That made sense to me and it stuck. If you can’t control what you’re worried about then it has to stop. You must make a conscious decision to shift the issue to the person it belongs to, or if it’s not a person then shift it to an object or whatever else it “does” belong to. It’s OK to do that! Something I’ve learned in my journey through life is that at least metaphorically speaking, is to redistribute the worry by just putting the energy that it takes to worry, back into the vast Universe and let it take care of itself, so to speak. You might say something like, “Hello out there, I can’t handle this worry, can you please redistribute it back to where it came from or to the person causing the worry or absolve it all together?” It might sound a little strange… I don’t mean for it too, however, whatever you can do to banish the worry from you and your body is worth the journey! Now, let me say that you aren’t limited to worry, “it’s” just what this article is about… have your way with it!
Right now, we have devastation through parts of our United States, not to mention other parts of the World that are having some sort of devastation. I worried about these issues until I realized that I would be better off praying and/or meditating for the people and country rather than wasting my time worrying. Action needs to take place and worrying is just for people who do not want to take action. Taking action (or being helpful) can be anything from sending a donation, personally volunteering in some way, praying, meditation for their peace of mind or in their heart, or any other way you can think of to put yourself into a simple action toward their peace, therefore shifting your peace to them. If you are not at peace then it simply makes them and you not at peace plus you are now making more waves in your own personal life. What kind of sense does that make? If you are at peace, then you can at least make a small contribution toward the issue, right?
It’s about making a shift in your mind. Try it. Close your eyes. Do you worry about Susie next door who is having an affair and her husband might find out—and on and on? With your eyes closed, shift the responsibility of the entire issue over to Susie. Imagine that you walk over to her home calmly and let her know that your burden of worrying about her is shifted back to her. Imagine handing the burden to her like a package all wrapped up with a ribbon on it, marked “your affair.” Now then, walk away and come back home… in your mind, of course. That should take some pressure from you. You’ve given the worry and responsibility of the issue to Susie rather than you having to worry about it! Or as my Mother used to say, “Put the turd back in their pocket!” I’ve never had a full understanding of the meaning of this saying but it does transfer something from one person to another! You get the idea!
Let’s talk about what happens when one makes that shift to others. It’s a release, and use whatever technique you need, and be as extravagant as you want in order to prepare and let your mind know that you are making the shift to someone or something else. That you are not in charge of that issue any longer!
The only reason one would sit around and worry is if you have too much spare time on your hands. Otherwise, you would be doing something productive that requires thinking and not worrying about things you have no control over.
People needing to take responsibility for their own sadness, choices, and more. Pray for them and keep them in your heart! Now, you’ve started proactive action that, like the butterfly effect, will resonate throughout the World.